Independent Play Is a Real Thing. Seriously.


We’ve loved our weekly playdates for years now. For the most part, it’s the same small circle of moms and babies we started with, but recently, things have changed. I guess you could say playtime leveled up. AGAIN.

We were thrilled when the girls started interacting as toddlers, and then graduated to more involved imaginary play. It meant we could have snippets of real conversation with our fellow mamas, with only an occasional interruption here and there. But recently, something new happened.

They closed the door. As in, “Bye, now. No mommies necessary. We got this playdate thing.” They just walked into the bedroom, and started up a game of house, and left us there alone.

And they did great! Not a cry or complaint among them. The only time they argued a bit was over who would play the Mommy in the game. Other than that, they played like the best of friends. And we were free to sit and chat like real, human grownups. With WINE, people. A glass of wine, each, and uninterrupted conversation about how we thought this day might never arrive.

So if you’re deep in the lonely trenches of baby and toddler motherhood, take heart. Your day will come. It happens kind of suddenly. And it makes those long, loud, solitary years seem kind of short, and maybe even sweet.


Ana & Dani